Coming Out Once APPROVED

[REPutation 83]

This post relates to Rawf, a member.

Now the real question is, once you get your EAD, drivers liscense, SSN and state ID, will you then tell certain people in your life about your legal status or eveyone that have ever been curious or bothered you about it. Would you just let the conversation happen on its own or would you play it off, like I would.

[Rodrigovela17 0]

I gotta a couple friends who i need to explain to it cause i stopped hanging out with them because i needed to get my stuff together and build up money for my license /car/ and other stuff. I'm just going to let the conversation happen on it own.

[mayra 19]

I would talk about it to people close to me... i mean why not? This is something we were all waiting and being able to do do things u dream about now there gonna come true! but i think i would also be like "yeaayuhh in your face all those haters! I did it" lol I just cant wait till that day comes ill be dancing, jumping going crazy! or maybe ill just let my lil girl do it for me cuz if i do maybe ill go in to early labor and i do NOT want that!

[JamRock 22]

I don't think it will change a thing. Once approved, I will continue to live my life in more fulfilled way but I personally don't think it warrants me to tell anyone anything if it's not their business meaning that the person who wants to know is not a well wisher or I'm not close to them like that. Ironically, I help other DACA students with their apps and although sometimes I want to share my own story, I can't mostly because it's a professional environment.

In my view, the people who didn't know before don't need to know now.

[Brookness 27]

I think that conversation should happen to those friends that really need to know. I came out to my friends in high school and one of them made fun of me every opportunity she got. Ironically she ended up marrying a guy in my situation. Needless to say she became more sympathetic to the issue. A teacher who I confided on actually tried his best to help and even wrote me a letter of recommendation for when something like this came up. I should say it will be something that I will be eternally grateful for since he was a highly decorated Colonel in the Army. Some will understand why your are so guarded and cautious, others will look at you in a different light, others might pity you and some friends you might lose all together. I

[roadrunner11 167]

Personally I don't think it is necessary to explain to everyone. I only told my friends who were aware of my status before.

[Jason 13]

I'm from new york city and people here are friendly to undocs so I tell people the truth if they ask why I have to pay for tuition and such,But if you're not comfortable telling people and you know that you don't trust a person enough to tell them don't. Just to be safe I guess. And even if you do, I really don't think they can stop the paperwork process being done by USCIS anyways.

[erika020 87]

It's not something i would tell people unless I have to and I agree with JamRock, "people who didn't know before don't need to know now"

[Rawf 336]

This is hard, mainly because all my friends think I'm a permanent resident. I've been in the US for 11+ years and everytime we are in the topic they always say I'm a permanent resident since they are all on working visa. I never denied or accepted, I just smiled and went on doing what I was doing.

I don't think it is really needed, legal status shouldn't matter if your friends truly care about you.

[NilviaRR 53]

I told my BEST friend a few years ago and she was amazingly supportive about it and it was so great to have her as a shoulder to lean on throughout my process and someone else to celebrate with when I got approved... My boyfriend also knew a few months into us dating... As for the rest of my friends, I'm not sure if I will tell them personally... one of my friends is majorly conservative and anti-illegal immigration (her family is hardcore republican)... But soon I believe my sister and I are coming out in a few major newspapers in my state because of a certain situation we're working on in our town that we're concerned about... I spoke with some civil rights groups and they want to put the info in the paper and asked if we were willing to disclose our own stories and we said yea... A lot of ppl in my (extremely small) town know and love our family... At the same time, though, a lot of them really do believe we're all here legally... So I am a little scared about some reactions to the news but at the same time mi mama always told me to hold my head up high and that ppl have to like me for who I am so I will definitely go through with it... But as for being scared and feeling its not necessary for ppl to know... I definitely understand that too!!!

[itzel 336]

I bow to no one but God and if anyone asks me I have nothing to hide. I commited no crime or sin by being illegal....my dad brought me to this country without doing things the right way...its not my fault he did things this way......If I share with someone my "situation" prior to DACA and they have the audacity to judge me, then they get the hell out of my life, they dont deserve to be in my life then...